Begin Anew

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This year, my goal is to talk more and express myself more. To stop being so afraid of failing that I don't even try at all; I mean that's partly one of the reasons why I don't sing in public. To open up more because other people can't read minds nor can they sense the exact nature of my problems. That's why I am re-purposing this blog; to essentially become a place of reflection. A place where I can come and essentially reflect about myself, the world and my beliefs. The title remains the Inbetweeners but it takes on a whole new meaning.

So this year marks 1 year of being a Christian (woop woop) and so the title now represents something else; how I feel like I'm in-between worlds; culturally and spiritually. Like if you look at Romans 12:2 Paul reminds us that we should not conform to the way our society thinks, behaves or acts but that is not a call to be completely removed from the wold. Like how else are we meant to represent God here on earth; how else are we meant to be loving, compassionate, kind and honest Spirit-filled people if we cut ourselves off. So I feel like I'm in between the world he created and the world we live in. The world he created was kind, and happy and loving and now, it's not that way anymore.

Now don't assume here that I'm blaming non-Christian/non-religious people here for this mess; that would be completely neglectful of human history wherein people misused and abused, and continue to do so, Christianity to oppress, hate and judge others wrongly. But I am saying we all have a responsibility to step outside of our respective bubbles and collectively try to share the love (at the risk of sounding like most of your social media after 2016. And that's what this year is about for me; trying to do that with every action I do. Be it a simple compliment, or a smile or even offering someone tea and cake (the Anglicisation is complete; Oh if only my ancestors could see me now).

It's about sharing love for others, and love for myself; and that's what this blog is about.

Loving myself enough to find a place to open up as I straddle between the two worlds I am a part of.

Happy New Year!

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