The Inbetweeners

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Welcome to the World My B-e-a-uties :)

I've been wanting to say this for a long time. To discuss the most cliche yet relevant topic on most people's minds; their body.

I know that there is a lot of hullabaloo about being too skinny, perhaps I should say too slender, or being obese. Yet there are those of us, namely me and some of my friends, who are the inbetweeners. We are too fat to be slender but too slender to be obese. While the terms 'fat' and 'slender' are relative as we have all heard about those girls who exclaim that they are fat while they have a body Victoria Beckam would kill for, they all kind of mean the same thing to us inbetweeners. They remind us that we are the awkward bunch. Those who have to dress a certain way, and eat a certain way but in the end, we are amorphous.

We just hover between the two categories of body shapes not knowing where we belong out of the things we see in the media. We are just there and there's nothing more to it. While the plight and woes of the slender and obese are illustrated on a day-to-day basis as both the former and the latter face certain discrimination, the inbetweeners bear the brunt of both plights. For example, I would eat some chicken nuggets and my mum would ask if that is the most appropriate thing to do while pointedly looking at my body, even though she means well. My friends would sometimes tell me that I look too skinny when my jeans would become baggy or my tops a tad too loose, even though they too mean well. Obviously, the issue that needs to be addressed is the repetitive problem associated with the media's promulgation of the perfect girl - big boobs, tiny waist, nice rounded hips with a firm bum to match and a flat tummy. Yet the media isn't going to stop anytime soon and why should it? Body issues mean more sales for exercise-based and make-up industries thus they have no incentive to stop.

That is beside the point, the point is as inbetweeners, we attract no more than passing glances which is both a blessing and a curse. We find it hard to lose weight but gaining it is all too easy. We are consistently reminded that those we may desire may want someone else. Someone thinner or someone slightly bigger. Someone with certain features that we may not meet. But it's not all bad. Us inbetweeners are probably the most interesting people you will come across. Due to our awkward bodies, we have amazing personalities, and brilliant talents and we are fantastic and superb people. But our world is not judged on the principle of personalities but that of bodies.

While I could go on and on, I'd rather not because there would be no point. People are simply tired of caring, but they just can't stop. They can't stop caring about what people think of them, even the unseen janitor or the random person on the street - it's a disease and it needs to stop. Sadly, the inbetweeners have it the worst.

Ladies and Gentlemen, I present to you, the plight of the inbetweeners.


Comments

  1. The Voice Over5/17/2014 4:01 pm

    I forgot to specify this in the post but I am in no way belittling the problems other people face, merely using them as a point of comparison. I understand and I know that they face serious problems and they do not require or deserve to be made fun of.

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